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Week One – Welcome to 2018!

2017 is in the rear view mirror and 2018 has officially kicked off with bitter cold, snow days, and a HUGE amount of email and tasks to respond to from the holiday season.  As much as I enjoy the holidays, I have to admit I am glad to be back into the routine.  The discipline of having things to complete and routine patterns are a little comforting, despite their tediousness.  I have already realized a few things, though, about my resolutions and performance in 2018.  First, although I am starting to eat better, I have not kept up with my goals on eating after the holidays.  That should fix itself, though, over the next couple of weeks.  I have had my resolution to have more patience with people tested fairly significantly already in week 1.  I am only one book away from meeting my goal of reading one book per week, although I am close to finishing the one I started this week, so I don’t consider this to be too far off track.  Finally, my goal to post 3-4 times during my week has obviously not been successfully accomplished in the first week. So, with 1 week down and 51 to go, there is a lot of room for growth.

As always during this season, I think about goals, resolutions, etc., and the many reasons so many of us end up failing to keep them for much longer than a month.  I really think it is because we have our measurement methods wrong.  We set a goal to do something every day or every couple of days and the first time we don’t end up doing it, we end up determined, yet already thinking we are behind and at some point behind becomes never catch up, so we give up.  What we should be doing is saying that “by the end of the year I want to have accomplished ‘x'”.  That way we don’t start undermining our potential success right away, rather we give ourselves the opportunity to pick up and start again tomorrow.  That simple mindset change of “it’s okay to start over tomorrow” can make all the difference between successfully meeting a goal or giving up.  Anyway, I have found that to be the case for me.  I am much more likely to pick up and start again if my time frame is by the end of the year, rather than every day.

The second thing I have discovered is a show called “Better Late Than Never”, which has William Shatner, Henry Winkler, Terry Bradshaw and George Foreman going on a European trip together.  I have only watched the first episode, but it is a very fun show and it is great to see these four different personalities share experiences and build their friendships as they travel together.  It reminded me a little of the trips I have made with my fellow co-authors, in the sense that half of the fun is the interaction between the four of them (or 3 of us) and the rest is in the travel events themselves.  Plus it serves to remind me that it is important to seize opportunities as they arise and do the things on my bucket list sooner rather than later.  I was struck that none of the four stars of the show had ever been to the Zugspitze (the highest mountain in Germany) and they were awestruck by the beauty of the Alps.  I don’t want to wait until I am 86, like William Shatner, to see some of these things for the first time.

Finally, I’d like to leave you with a couple of quotes, a book recommendation, and a throwback song that I rediscovered this week thanks to some old video games.  The song is I Don’t Wanna Stop by Ozzy Osbourne.  It was part of the Madden football games and it was refreshing to find it again.  The book I highly recommend is Ready, Player One, which is being released as a movie in March.  Do yourself a favor and read the book first.  It is a mix of 80’s references, the Matrix, and classic video games.  It is a quick read and a very, very good one.  Last, I leave you with two quotes to kick off your year.

The first is from C.S. Lewis.  “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream another dream.”

The second is from Timothy Ferris.  “The fishing is best where the fewest go, and the collective insecurity of the world makes it easy for people to hit home runs while everyone else is aiming for base hits. There is just less competition for bigger goals. If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is, too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.”

Have a great week and good luck on your new year!

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December 31, 2017 – Endings and Beginnings

So here we are at the end of a year and the start of a new one. We will be changing the format in the coming year, maybe not posting as much, but we will keep posting. As I said in other posts – it is a labor of love. Happy New Year to our readers – looking forward to another year of ODD.

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December 29/30/31 – Happy New Year

So, as you may have noticed we have had difficulty posting over the past couple of weeks.  Part of this is schedule-induced, some memory-induced and some technology-induced, but the most accurate reason is that we have been so involved in the holidays that this blog ended up a little neglected.

We decided to change things up for next year.  Each of us will take a week and write as often or infrequently as we feel led. Part of the reasoning was to help us to keep our writing schedule straight and part was because we may have days where nothing really strikes us and then a few days where we have three or four things, so this gives us a little more flexibility. 

As we come to the end of 2017, I have had some time amidst the activity to reflect on the past year and to meditate on it a little. This year has seen lots of change in all three of our families, some good, some bad, and some in the middle.  Through all of it though, the three of us have grown closer and I think there are some key reasons that may be beneficial for all of us. 

First, we have been deliberate about staying in touch and spending time together.  It is a simple truth, but powerful, the more time you spend with quality people, the deeper and stronger the relationships grow.  Second, we shared in each others’ victories and struggles. When you find relationships where each partner feels safe enough to be trusted and open, you have found a truly valuable treasure.  Safeguard it.

Third, like siblings, we keep each other grounded in reality. When times have been tough, we have stood shoulder to shoulder encouraging and helping and speaking truth about the reality of the situation rather than the perception.  When times have been good, we have celebrated but also kept each other grounded in the truth that success is fleeting and is a result of and not a testament to the qualities and efforts that define who we are as individuals.  Remember, you are not the sum of your successes and failures, you are much. Ore valuable than that.

Finally, we just enjoy being around each other.  You become like the five people you hang out with the most…choose wisely.  Pick character and quality over flash and cash. As I heard it put once, you may buy the sizzle, but you eat the steak. 

I hope you all have a happy New year and that 2018 brings you all health, joy and peace. 

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December 28, 2017 – More Road Trivia

After 3 days on the road from Texas I’d like to share a little more road trivia.  The nice thing about having a spouse who loves trivia as much as me is that when I wonder about something we see on the road, she is already looking it up when I ask.  Some interesting facts we learned on this trip.

  • There are two Colorado rivers in the United States. The one in Texas is the 18th longest and empties into the Gulf of Mexico.
  • The Zebra mussel is an invasive species plaguing America’s fresh waters – they are originally from the Caspian Sea in Russia. They came over in the bilge water in ships. Another Russian conspiracy.
  • Calaveras means skulls in Spanish, so the very celebrated story book by Mark Twain is actually (in English) “The Celebrated Jumping Frog of Skulls County”.  Not as nice or quaint, actually quite scary.
  • RM and FM roads in Texas are Ranch to Market and Farm to Market. RM roads are much wider than FM roads. FM roads are also very dark and in poor shape. You can thank the traffic app, Waze for that bit of trivia.
  • Its just as far from Knoxville, Tennessee to Texarkana, Texas as it is from Texarkana to San Antonio.  Texas is stupid big.
  • Arkansas and Kansas come from entirely different root languages, so they shouldn’t be pronounced the same.
  • Texas doesn’t believe in lighted streets outside of big cities.
  • There are a lot of deer in Texas judging by the number of dead deer beside the roads.
  • Louisiana needs more commercials about littering the highways. Reminded me of the 70s.
  • The two longest bridges in the United States are in Louisiana.
  • Mississippi was surprisingly clean.
  • If you are in Biloxi, Mississippi stop and get some hot tamales at Doris’ Hot Tamales. The best I’ve ever had.
  • Doris’ Hot Tamales is part of a Mississippi Delta hot tamale trail.  Who knew?
  • The largest underground lake in the United States is just off I75 near Sweetwater, Tennessee.
  • The meaning of the Tennessee was lost to history – it has an Indian meaning, they just don’t know what.

Last but not least – when playing the license plate game the hardest ones to find (didn’t see one coming or going) are Hawaii, Alaska, Montana, and South Dakota.

 

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December 26, 2017 Boxing Day

Speaking of traditions, the British have a nice one that I think is worth mentioning. The day after Christmas is called Boxing Day and it is a national holiday just like Christmas. The tradition started as a day for people to “box up” their decorations and out their homes back into pre-holiday look before heading back to work.

Boxing Day is very practical and non-emoti Nail like everything else British. Even in today’s frantic social media driven world with all the push for retail sales similar to Black Friday, Boxing Day is seen by the British as a day off to prepare for normalcy. It just seems to make sense.

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December 25, 2017 – Traditions

Merry Christmas to all our readers. Last month I wrote that Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. One of the main reasons is that there is no stress over gift giving. Christmas has come to be almost inextricably ties to the act of gift giving which, at least for me, has significantly tainted this holiday.

Fortunately, Christmas for our family and friends is also strongly associated with traditions. This aspect of the holiday season always make me feel better. I’m not a big fan of tradition in general. Oftentimes, I believe tradition gets in the at of progress and I’ve seen that phenomenon play out during my military and civil service careers.

However, holiday traditions are different for me. Holiday traditions remind me of family and friends, of childhood memories and parenthood joys, of comfortable surroundings and warm feelings.

We weren’t able to honor holiday traditions this year for a variety of reasons. We chose to not honor some and our circumstances kept us from honoring others. Some were ignored because they were deemed “impractical” and others were simply impossible. But we initiated two new ones which we enjoyed with our new family member. The new traditions gave me the same feeling our old traditions provided. Traditions don’t have to be long standing. They just need to mean something… and they have to start sometime.

I hope all of you are able to honor old or new traditions today. And I hope that whatever Christmas means to you, it brings you joy and happiness beyond measure.

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December 21, 2017 – Observations from the Road

Day two of our road trip and I’ve made some general observations.

When you get outside of the Washington D.C. metro area you notice that more people smoke.

There are as many body shapes as there are fruit.

For the most part, the best drivers, and most courteous, are truckers.

The higher the price of gas, the worse the roads are. Shouldn’t it be the other way around?

Hotels that charge less than $100 per night have crappy beds. You pay for what you get.

Southern hospitality is a thing.

The farther south you go – the bigger the portions, and the people.

The cheaper the gas, the dirtier the restroom.

Much like flying – people now drive in their PJs.  What happens if your car breaks down?

Love the sunsets in Texas.

Drivers in Arkansas watch too much NASCAR based on their driving habits.

Wishing all the readers a very Merry Christmas, may God keep and bless you.

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December 20, 2017 – Road Trip!

Hitting the road for the holidays is mostly stressful, hectic, and fun. I enjoy driving and seeing parts of our great country that I haven’t seen. You get to meet nice people from all walks of life and get a glimpse of what life is like for people living in other parts of the country.  I try to make the journey as much a part of the vacation as the actual vacation, whether it’s stopping at a roadside attraction (largest ball of twine) or just finding local cafes eating something new.

I also remember how much my parents did not like being forced into always traveling to see their parents.  As a reminder, kids actually listen when their parents are talking are complaining.  Just saying. So I try to make it fair when it comes to holiday travel when I can. Traveling also means that Santa has to find you on the road, especially when you have small children. A challenge, but one that can be overcome with some ingenuity and early arrangements with USPS.

Finally, its that wonderful feeling you get when you haven’t seen a loved one for some time. That can be reason enough to travel – it is for me. Its best to leave from those trips when you have rehashed all the old stories, shared new ones, and are still a bit reluctant to leave. That’s the perfect blend.  More from road travels on day two.

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December 19, 2017 A Stoic’s Stoic

Yesterday, one of the coauthors forwarded an email to me which included a reference to our current Secretary of Defense’s habit of carrying Marcus Aurelius’ “Meditations” at all times. I wasn’t aware that Secretary Mattis carried this philosophical work with him, but it doesn’t surprise me at all. He is the Philospher-Warrior of our time. I’m certain he and Aurelius would have a wonderful time hanging out and discussing life, war and the cosmos. They are both Stoics’ Stoics.

The opening of Meditations has Aurelius thanking those who shaped him into the man he became. Here is my attempt to do the same:

From my father: patience, value of hard work, not taking things too seriously

From my maternal grandfather: attention to detail, humor

From my paternal grandfather: a sense of calm, a heart for others

From my best friend: competitiveness in balance with care

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December 18, 2017 Good Vibrations

Apparently, I’m on a streak of using song titles that makes the actual content of the post. This one might not be that far off the title though. The other day I was watching a BBC documentary by a physicist who wanted to explain biological phenomena based on the laws of physics. His premise, like that of Einstein when he developed the Theory of Relativity, was that the principles of biology have generally not been questioned for decades or longer.

He discussed three human senses-sight, hearing and smell. The first two, according to biologists, rely on physical laws related to waveforms. However biologists describe the sense of smell using laws of organic chemistry. They assert that molecules determine smells and that the makeup of different molecules determine a scent. The shape of a molecule can only fit certain olfactory receptors so the chemical connection tells our brain that a rose is a rose

The physicist took this thought further and described the fact that molecules are not static things but particles of energy that are connects in different ways. He posits that these connectors are what determines a scent because they vibrate at different frequencies just like the strings of a violin. Those frequencies determine good smalls and bad smells. Just like music helps determines good moods and bad moods.

Thinking through his theory made me think of how much music impacts my mood. I used to listen to music all day long. From waking up to the radio to popping in a CD before bed, I made it a point to play music that made me happy. I’ve gotten away from that the past few years so it’s time to revive that habit. Music is a powerful force of physics that makes the molecules get down and get funky.