To continue with the theme from the last post – what we talk about during our all to infrequent gatherings. One conversation centered around a question posed by one of our children recently, “why don’t you try to make more friends instead of hanging out with the same ones over and over again?” That was a good question and it was fairly easy to answer.
We (the 3 dads) define a true friend as someone you can call at 3 a.m. to pick you up 100 miles away – and that friend will get up without hesitation, without question – and come get you. Each of us, having discussed this at length, can only count those people on one hand. Everyone else can be called an acquaintance. We have lots of acquaintances and most people we meet will immediately go into that category after five minutes of conversation. True friends are also people with whom you can share ideas without fear of judgment – at least while you are presenting it. That’s not to say we don’t criticize each other – we do – but we do it in a constructive way, and in each other’s presence. True friends are always investing in the friendship, not just when it’s convenient. It’s much the same as being married – you have to give to get – and that’s the same with love and friendship.
Also, we all are blessed with a certain number of hours per day, and where and how you spend those hours should be a high priority for most of us. Staying fit, spending time with family, working, taking time with God, eating, and sleeping take most of those hours, leaving precious few for other activities. We would rather spend those hours with dear and true friends when we have time that isn’t spoken for.
That was one topic of discussion – so refill your glass, grab some more appetizers and get ready for another discussion about something…or nothing.